Twist of Fate

Chris and Lori Coble told Oprah their story of losing three kids in a car accident. I'm not sure when the show originally aired, but it was a tear jerker.  Lori was stuck in traffic on a highway with her mother and three children all under the age of six.  A semi-truck going 55 mph slammed into their minivan and the only survivors were Lori and her mother.  I pray I never have to experience the pain of losing a child.  I commend people like the Coble's who share their experiences with others and how they continue to live on day by day.  I have a friend who lost a child and later wrote a book about her experience.  There are a few similarities I've heard from people who've lost a child. The first is that they had to walk through the pain to get to the other side.  Chris also said that he learned he needed to keep the lines of communication open with his wife in order to keep their marriage together.  They learned that the famous line "time heals all wounds" is a myth. According to Oprah, Dr. Phil even says, "time doesn't heal anything.  It's what you do with the time." Oprah referenced an old Dr. Phil show where they talked about how people can get focused on the day of their loved ones death instead of remembering their life.  Lori said she did that at first and then made a conscious decision to celebrate her children's lives.

No matter how hard life may seem at times, it can get better.  I hate to be a Debbie Downer (my son's favorite saying) but, there was a silver lining to this show. Almost one year to the day of their children's death, Lori gave birth to triplets.  She now has two girls and a boy which were the exact same sexes of the children she lost.  Can you say miracle?